18 FRONTDOORS MEDIA | NOVEMBER 2019 What keeps Conley going is understanding her purpose: to take action that might save another family from enduring this kind of pain. CAREY'S CORNER CONTINUED AUGUST 9, 2017 Three years after his father’s death, Cole Conley moved back in with his mom to figure out the next steps in his life and career. On the morning of August 9, 2017, Cole dropped Carey off at a luncheon. She thought he was heading to work — at the time he worked as a digital and social media producer for Channel 12. And then, the unthinkable happened. Like his father, Cole died by suicide. I first saw the news on social media when one of the anchors from Channel 12 posted a tribute to Cole. I couldn’t believe what I was reading. Conley and her daughter had to live through the nightmare all over again. She dropped out of public view and went “underground,” as she described it, to grieve two of the loves of her life. Cole’s death was rock bottom. “There are no words in the English language to describe how much I miss my son every single day. He was my buddy and we enjoyed so many things together,” she said. When Conley began to emerge a year after she lost Cole, she had a new vision: to take action that might save another family from enduring this kind of pain. She appeared on my podcast and revealed to listeners that she and her daughter were working on a book about their journey. The title would be “Keep Looking Up.” “The whole purpose of the book,” Conley explained, “is to help people who may be going through adversity, or wanting to help someone who is, to have a bigger perspective on life. The only way Laurel and I are getting through all of this is because we know where Cole and Ross are, and that we will all be together again.” Laurel Conley Wilson, who is now married and entering a new chapter of her own life said, “I also hope this opens up the door for anyone to be courageous when it comes to sharing their story. It isn’t easy to be vulnerable, but it is such a key to connecting. Each chapter sheds light on what we think are important lessons that we have learned and that could be useful to readers.” GREAT AMERICAN FAMILY Carey Conley told me that they used to have what could be considered the “great American family.” “We enjoyed our time together and made a lot of memories. We were truly the family that nobody ever would have guessed something like this would happen to,” she said. Carey Conley and her daughter Laurel teamed up to write a book that explains how they overcame the grief and stigma surrounding losing their husband/father and son/brother to suicide within three years of each other.

Carey Peña CONTRIBUTING WRITER @CareyPenaTV When it did happen, she was forced to make a choice: Stay in the shadows, or come out and fight. “I have an option to not do anything and curl up and stop,” Conley said. “But then what’s it all for? This is an epidemic. If we don’t reach into allowing people to understand their purpose and what they are meant to do and why they matter, it perpetuates itself.” Suicide is a complex subject. Conley doesn’t pretend to understand what was in her husband’s heart and mind, nor her son’s. Both were struggling with decisions about how to best navigate life, but both tragedies came as a shock. “We all go through challenging times,” she told me. “But do we automatically think they are going to take their life? Of course not.” What keeps her going today is seeing a vision for her future and understanding her purpose. “It’s hard to wrap your brain around that level of loss,” Conley said with tears in her eyes. “The first hour or two of every day for me is total solitude. I have to bring myself back up for the day.” She does a lot of devotion and journaling. “The true desire of your heart is to know your purpose for existing,” she said. “Unfortunately, the only way people generally figure that out is when they have had something devastating happen to them.” She went on to say, “There is something bigger that you are called to do while you are on this earth. Stop living in a reactive mode and start living in proactive mode.” “Keep Looking Up” is being released on November 11, 2019 — what would have been Cole’s 28th birthday. To see more of Carey’s reporting, go to inspiredmedia360.com .